Just when you thought that bullying only happens in the schoolyard, puwede rin ito mangyari sa corporate setting.
But then, according to JobStreet.com in their article Bullying in the workplace: Recognizing the signs and what you can do about it, hindi lahat ng forms of intimidation is considered as bullying.
“Objective comments that are intended to give constructive feedback are considered normal and not usually considered bullying. What is abnormal is unreasonable treatment that is persistent and causes physical or mental harm to the victim,” they explained.
Ilan sa mga signs to look for is kapag lagi kang sinisigawan, minumura, at iniinsulto. Your workmates gossip and spread rumors about you in the office. Laging pinupuna ‘yung mali for no constructive reason and you get unjustifiable punishments.
If you recognize these, here are 5 ways that you can do when you’re being bullied.
- It’s not you, it’s them.
Remember that whatever it is that the bully is doing and saying against you is not the truth of who you are, but only a reflection of their own personal problems and issues undealt with.
Ronda Suder of TopResume in her article 7 Tips for Handling a Bully at Work, made it clear that bullies act from a place of their own insecurity and the need to control.
Which leads to the next point…
- Ingatan ang sarili.
Stressed ka na from your 8-hour job kaya do yourself a favor at ingatan ang sarili.
Payo nga ni Catherine Mattice Zundel in an article Don’t Let Workplace Bullies Win—Here’s How to Spot Them and Stop Them by Stav Ziv, you can join activities outside work that would help you boost your self-esteem or just simply do things that will make you happy.
Do you love making art? Playing music? How about sports?
Do it and its impact as you face your day!
- Document everything.
Lahat ng ginagawa nilang pambu-bully sa’yo? Whether it be in a business conference or meeting presentation, keep a record of it.
Note the facts, such as the who, what, when, where, why, and all the details na puwede mong maging evidences. Even the emails, reports, and documentations kung mayroon ka, sabi ni Zundel.
- Speak to your Manager or HR about it.
Take all the evidences you have gathered and present your case to the higher-ups or HR. Makakatulong ito to build a stronger case and protect you from false accusations.
Pero ang tip ni Suder, “when addressing your concern with others, don’t play the blame game. Come up with a plan of how you are going to address the bullying concern and be sure to include its impact on productivity, well-being, and morale coupled with some possible solutions.”
- Choose wisely who you surround yourself with.
Why? Because bullying is a serious problem that CANNOT be handled alone, sabi na ‘yan ni Sherri Gordon of Verywell Mind in her write-up How to Confront Workplace Bullying.
You need to surround yourself with people who will build you up, empower you, and not leave you in times of distress.
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