Umiyak.

Malungkot.

Magalit.

Kung nafi-feel mo ang mga ‘yan, you can let it out. Hindi ka namin pipigilan.

We will never know kung gaano kasakit ang nararamdaman mo because everyone experiences grief and loss differently, pero gusto lang namin malaman mo na nandito kami para samahan ka.

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Your loved one may have passed away due to COVID-19 or maybe from other illnesses, but please hear this out.

Sabi ng Australian Centre for Grief and Bereavement in an article Grieving the loss of a loved one during the coronavirus pandemic cited by Beyond Blue, “while it might seem as though the world is preoccupied with other things, this does not mean that your grief is insignificant or that you should put your feelings off for another time.”

Breaker, let us help you walk through on how you can face grief over a loss of a loved one during the pandemic.

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1. Honor your loved one kahit virtual.

It’s extremely difficult to adjust to the reality that you cannot mourn collectively tulad nang dati dahil sa COVID-19 restrictions.

Andiyan din ‘yung feelings of regret and guilt na hindi mo nagawang alagaan or suportahan ‘yung taong mahal mo nung mga panahon na pinaka-kailangan ka nila.

Gaano kasakit ‘yun?

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But then, gusto lang namin malaman mo that it is not your fault. You did what you could, but the pandemic is something na hindi mo kayang i-control.

Kaya naman you can still honor your loved one kahit online. Sabi ni JR Ilagan in his article Grieving from a distance: Coping with loss due to coronavirus in Rappler, “Grieving without the comfort of a loved one’s hug may be tough, but allow yourselves to talk to each other, share stories of the loved one, and, most importantly, mourn together even though from afar.”

2. Do not rush your grief.

Siguro nakakaramdaman ka ng feeling na kailangan mo na agad maka-move on given the world’s current situation. Pressured ka to get over your grief because of the many responsibilities na kailangan mo i-fulfill.

Why not pause and slow down muna?

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“Giving yourself time to feel without rushing yourself through the process allows you to work through the pain of loss,” Kendra Cherry said in her article Understanding Grief in the Age of the COVID-19 Pandemic by Verywell Mind.

“Reaching a place of acceptance takes time, but in doing so you are able to acknowledge that your loved one is no longer physically here, but that you will always have the memories, joy, and love that you shared with that person,” sabi pa niya.

3. You may grieve again and that’s okay.

Sinasabi namin ‘to para hindi ka magulat because there will be moments na something or someone will trigger your memories with your deceased loved one again.

Kapag nangyari ‘yun, huwag ka matakot na maiyak, malungkot, or magalit ulit.

“It will come and revisit you. And you’ll adjust to it differently when it comes back. You’ll feel different about it in one year, in five years and in 20 years. It will be a part of your life because we are talking about attachment, relationships and love,” sabi ni Professor Allan Kellehear in the same article from Beyond Blue.

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